HOW TO BE VEGAN WHEN YOUR FAMILY ISN’T

I am the authority on how to be vegan when your family isn’t.

I’m not just saying that.

Sure, my parents fed us a lot of veggie stuff when I was a kid, but mainly because you got more bang for your buck both with regards to money and nutrition.

My parents also refuse to buy caged eggs (we’ve always had hens in the garden), would never let us have ultra-processed meat like teddy-bear ham (even though we begged) and always buy British meat.

However, they also go up to the hunt meet every boxing day (so did I until about five years ago), are fairly wary of veganism, and my younger brother is a gamekeeper on a grouse moor.

I was very lucky when I announced that I was going vegetarian. My parents never tried to dissuade me and were happy as long as I was healthy.

Previous to actually transitioning to vegetarianism my mum always said we were welcome to give it a go but we’d have to cook for ourselves, but she very kindly still cooked my meals for me, though I was more than old enough to do so.

So, yeah, it could have been worse.

My boyfriend isn’t vegan or even veggie but is happy to eat anything I cook. If he wasn’t, he’d make his own. Should your SO or kids expect you to cook meat, I’d insist that they watch Cowspiracy and Earthlings before doing so. If they’re still happy to eat meat after that, run for the hills.

Am I joking? Not sure.

Except *ahem* he does most of the cooking (I’M BUSY). Still, he happily cooks me vegan food.

So how do we manage? READ ON AND FIND OUT:

1. Don’t wang on about it all the time

I’m one of those sad cliches that love telling people I’m vegan.

I actually cringe inwardly every time I mention it, but the words are out before my brain can drag ’em back in. It’s a nightmare.

Because here’s the thing: few people care.

Eating meat is so intrinsic to some people’s lives that they would never ever consider giving it up.

I’m not saying to never mention it, or don’t educate people, but leave them alone sometimes.

Save some of your activism for big corporations so they stop testing on animals and start making really good vegan chicken kievs (if you know of any, for the love of god, please comment below).

Becoming a massive cliche isn’t helping anyone. I’m talking to you, Caroline.

vegan meal prep

2. Cook delicious vegan food for them

This is more for me than you. You’re probs not a lazy bones that gets her dinner cooked for her all the time.

I am.

But on occasion, I like to knock up a nice vegan chilli using Sainsbury’s soya mince, or make a lush veggie risotto.

You know what else is nice and extremely lazy? Mash with Linda McCartney sausages (not the rosemary ones; they’re rank). I fry onions and mushrooms and then add in Bisto (the caramelised onion one) and then pop in the (cooked) sausages and some frozen brussels sprouts. Tis lush.

Top tip: for the best ever mash, bake the potatoes in the oven and then scoop out the flesh when they’re cooked. Dip the skins in Nando’s medium sauce for a delicious starter.

If you’re having a whole-ass dinner party, I’d go for a buffet. Salad, chili, sausage rolls, coleslaw, etc etc etc. That way no one can cry ‘but I don’t vegan food’ because it’s just…food. If you’re cooking for a family event I have a post on how to cook have a vegan dinner party that no one notices is vegan.

Who says vegan cooking has to be complicated?

vegan meals

3. Take your own food (or offer to)

You might not think being vegan is complicated, but it reeeeally is to your grandma/uncle/friend (these are only examples, not specific groups, at least as far as I’m aware). You can tell them all you like that it’s easy, but they’re unlikely to get it.

It’s not complicated for you because you live it every day.

So take your own.

And try not to cry when your mum cooks the roast potatoes in goose fat and is clearly horrified her only daughter couldn’t have them.

Or when my dad put cow’s milk in my coffee at his father’s funeral and looked like he’d just shot a dolphin in the face, whilst I tried to assure him it was fine whilst simultaneously making my sister in law drink it.

ANYWAY, take your own food to places.

But take plenty. Oh yes.

Because those greedy bastards will EAT IT ALL.

DO we have any newbies here that have never been to a buffet with vegan options?

It’s HELL.

Because every omni will try the vegan option, and then come and find you to tell you how delicious it was whilst gnawing on a chicken leg. When it’s your turn to get up there THERE’S NONE LEFT.

This is a THING. I wonder if there’s a support group on Facebook for us.

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4. Answer any questions calmly

Because, Jesus, people will ask you some stupid questions, and no one like an angry vegan.

Which is so unfair, because I’m a naturally angry person (let’s call it passionate, shall we?) that just so happens to be vegan.

I cry when I’m frustrated too, which does nothing for your credibility. How the fuck do lawyers do it? Everyone thinks I’m crying for the poor piggies but I’m actually crying because they’re all wankers.

So when people ask things like ‘how do you get your protein?’, ‘wouldn’t we be over-run with animals if we didn’t eat them, and that classic ‘don’t plants have feelings too?’ it’s not the vegan in me that wants to punch their chin out through their cranium, I’m just like that.

Luckily I’m not actually the violent type – I like to keep it all healthily bottled up tight in my soul (yes, I do cry when I run, why do you ask?)

non-vegan ingredients to watch out for

Final thoughts on how to be vegan when your family isn’t

I get that some people are very against being a relationship with a non-vegan and I respect that, but it’s not something that bothers me that much.

Haha, although he’s going plant-based by accident, because one of his main food groups, Flora, has gone completely vegan.

It would bother me if my boyfriend was shoving the fact he eats meat in my face, refusing to try anything vegan and complaining about it all the time, but he doesn’t. He happily eats vegan food and is very supportive.

He actually only eats vegan yoghurt now, which may be my fault. I do a lot of the washing up and used to refuse to wash up his greek yoghurt pots for the recycling, and now he’s switched to Alpro. I’m pretty sure it’s mainly because the vanilla Alpro yoghurt tastes like melted ice cream but I like to think I helped a bit.

If your significant other is dead against you being vegan, I don’t really have any advice. That would be a dealbreaker for me, because it would show that our values were waaaay out of alignment.

Fair enough, I don’t expect my boyfriend to be a vegan, but if he didn’t understand why I’m vegan, then that’s different. It would cause a lot of fights and that’s not the relationship I want.

So yes, to wrap up:

  1. Don’t berate your family constantly about veganism – I like to ‘raise awareness’ by liking vegan-centric posts on twitter that will show up on their feed.
  2. Cook delicious vegan food and share it far and wide. I believe that this one is key.
  3. Always make sure you’re first in line for the buffet.

This is just a little reminder: if anyone knows of any vegan chicken kievs, plz let me know. With the garlic sauce in the middle, obvs.

 

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