Ok, you’re just going to have to trust me on this one that I’ve done my research. Because currently my life (work wise anyway) is far from what I want. I have however heeded my advice in this post and worked out what it is I actually want. Basically:
- To work from home full time
- to buy a house
Short term anyway, my end goal is save all the animals but that’s kind of a big project. Maybe next year.
I’ve just done a bit of hippy research and lumped together what I think are the secrets to getting to where you want to be. So here we go:
Know what you want.
Easier said than done, I’m aware, but necessary for this task. You ned a goal, or a list of teeny goals that are stepping stones towards your perfect life. Check out this post if you’re not sure what you want.
Write it down.
Keep it at the forefront of your mind. Type it out in a cool font, add a border, laminate it and stick it on the fridge. Leave notes in your pockets. Write it on the steamed up glass in the shower. On mornings when you wake up groggy because you were buzzing with ideas for your new project, you’ll need reminding why you only got three hours sleep.
When your opportunity comes up, you want to be ready for it. Get following the right people on social media, maybe give them a non-spammy tweet or two (we’ll keep it to two unless you become besties). Find out if you need any qualifications; if contacts in the industry would be helpful, what platform is best to interact with like-minded people. Build yourself a community within the field you want to pursue and it’ll seem like a much less scary place. Make yourself a pinterest board all about your new life. Keep it private if it’s too personal to share. Follow group boards that share your interests – you might find new avenues and leads to help you on your quest.
In yourself I mean, I see no reason why we need to add deities into the equation, unless that’s your thing. In which case, pray away! Just because the whole process is taking a bit longer than you’d imagined doesn’t mean it’s never going to happen. You never know what’s around the corner.
Ignore people who say you’ll never make it.
They’re just jealous their dreams aren’t as big as yours. People just love to crap over the dreams of others. That’s just life. Rise above it, and don’t sink to their level.
So what if it hasn’t happened yet? Work hard and keep your goals in mind and you’ll be just swell. Unless your goal is something like ‘I want to live in the world of Grey’s Anatomy’ or ‘I want to live on the sun’. Don’t lose sleep over imaginary problems and made-up scenarios. If you’re constantly second guessing yourself you’ll drive yourself mad.
Our opportunities are much vaster than once upon a time. If you want to be singer, get yourself on YouTube – same goes if you want to be a film-maker. If you want to be doctor, volunteer in a hospital. If you want to be a chef, get a job in a kitchen. Just start somewhere, just so you stop lying bed at night thinking ‘what if…’
Whatever it is, you’ll get better with practice and experience. This may mean interning or working long hours, but it’ll be worth it in the end. If it turns out you’re not as passionate about your passion as you thought you were, move on. Find something else. That’ll just be another chapter in the awesome biography that gets written about you.
This obviously goes hand in hand with practice. See if you can measure your progress. You may have to fork out some cash for a class or course or something, but think if it as investing in your future – take the money out of your food budget and live on baked potatoes and pasta for a week or two, you won’t starve. Demonstrate your skills to others and have them give you feedback (wait until you get home to cry). Refer back to point 5. If you want to be an actor but discover you have crippling stage fright, it’s better to know early on so you can get help and advice for it before you’re cast in your first big show. Imagine if you wanted to be doctor but discovered you hated people? Perhaps reconsider and become a vet. Or a surgeon with less contact time with conscious people.
Ask for help.
Social media can help with this, since you can directly speak to the titans in your particular field. Remember be polite, respectful and don’t spam people or make them feel uncomfortable.
The one all-encompassing lesson I got out of all the research I did was that you must do something. Don’t just sit on your bum going ‘I can’t, it’s too hard’ or the classic ‘I’m too tired’. We’re all tired nowadays. We live exhausting lives, but you get out what you put in. Whenever you’re having a meh moment imagine your life in a few years and remember that you have to sow in order to reap *eye-roll emoji*